Happiness and unhappiness is the result of both voluntary and involuntary influences, e.g. it may be due to news that someone you care about is having a baby, getting married, a new job, home or many other positive things that give happy emotions, making you feel happy for and/or with them.
However, if the the opposite were the case and someone you care about was experiencing sadness due to a miscarriage, marriage break up, losing their job, their home or similar, they are likely to feel very unhappy and other negative emotional feelings of sadness, hurt, anger etc., may get transferred to you too without you realising it.
When a persons emotional feelings and responses can be transferred to you. Rather like the spreading of a virus that physically passes on contact or being in close proximity the positive and negative emotions of others can equally pass to you.
If someone you live or work with is angry, sad, down or negative all or most of the time, those feelings can be transferred to you. Causing you to embed those thoughts and feelings into your own life. In turn, you can transmit these similar negative feelings to others.
It’s important you know how to deflect someones negativity. Although there are a number of ways to do so. I recommend using the following steps of STOP!, which has worked very effectively both personally and with clients.
I went to see Jacqui last year as I had some issues around self-esteem and felt that I was procrastinating. Jacqui was brilliant, we went through techniques that helped me to clear things that I didn't even realise were holding me back. Since then I have achieved so much including releasing my first children's book. I would recommend her to anyone. Gabrielle Brierley
Hi Jacqui Just thought I would drop you a message to let you know that I managed to fly on holiday with no anxiety on the outboard flight actually enjoying most of it and minimal anxiety on the return flight which was manageable so whatever you did must have worked, thank you!
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Dear Jacqui, I just want to express my sincere thanks on behalf of P and I for your kindness in the way you dealt with P and resolved her fear and also for resolving mine. I did not realise that my fear could be transferred to my daughter, I can't thank you enough, great therapy
Since starting my sessions with Jacqui I feel like a different person. Initially, I was seeking help for my chronic hives, which I had been suffering with for two and a half years. Jacqui is a great listener, kind and caring. She helped me get to the root of my problems and together we addressed many issues which were causing me stress and anxiety. I cannot recommend Jacqui enough and thank her from the bottom of my heart for everything she has done for me.