Many people who have been hurt either physically or emotionally by another person will feel bitterness anger, resentment and will want revenge against that person.
The majority will say that they will never forgive that person for hurting them, as they believe that by forgiving that person they are letting them off or condoning their behaviour without any recourse.
I have helped many clients that have been abused mentally and physically, cheated on, lied too, including victims of child abuse, let go and move on from the past.
A few years ago I worked with a young woman who was suffering from anxiety, lacked confidence and self esteem, she didn’t like her image and thought that she was not good enough.
It transpired that her father was an alcoholic, who had committed suicide when she was a teenager he was physically and mentally abusing her mother for many years. She had a little sister who she adored and would hide with her when the father came home drunk from work and the ritual of shouting, destroying items and abusing her mother. He would destroy her toys and books that meant so much to her and she told me that she hated him, she felt anger, resentment, abandonment and felt unloved by him.
Together we worked on all the negative emotions she still felt for her father with wonderful results, but the hardest and most difficult area to deal with was taking that final step forward to forgive her father.
We managed to work with Acceptance which really helped her but the sticking point was that she could not forgive him.
I explained to this young woman that she needed to forgive her father because forgiveness is to do with her not her father and by forgiving him she can totally set herself free from him, his behaviour and let him go.
Recently she returned and we worked with forgiveness, Anna tells me that she feels
happier, lighter and free from her past and feels that she is enough and feels like a new person.
I went to see Jacqui last year as I had some issues around self-esteem and felt that I was procrastinating. Jacqui was brilliant, we went through techniques that helped me to clear things that I didn't even realise were holding me back. Since then I have achieved so much including releasing my first children's book. I would recommend her to anyone. Gabrielle Brierley
Hi Jacqui Just thought I would drop you a message to let you know that I managed to fly on holiday with no anxiety on the outboard flight actually enjoying most of it and minimal anxiety on the return flight which was manageable so whatever you did must have worked, thank you!
I cannot recommend Jacqui enough and thank her for everything she has done for me. To have your life back and feel happy again is the best feeling in the world.
Dear Jacqui, I just want to express my sincere thanks on behalf of P and I for your kindness in the way you dealt with P and resolved her fear and also for resolving mine. I did not realise that my fear could be transferred to my daughter, I can't thank you enough, great therapy
Since starting my sessions with Jacqui I feel like a different person. Initially, I was seeking help for my chronic hives, which I had been suffering with for two and a half years. Jacqui is a great listener, kind and caring. She helped me get to the root of my problems and together we addressed many issues which were causing me stress and anxiety. I cannot recommend Jacqui enough and thank her from the bottom of my heart for everything she has done for me.